Stalking

If you or someone you know is being stalked, confidential help is available 24-hours a day, seven days a week at 29-ALERT (292-5378).

 

Stalking is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear . *
Examples include, but are not limited to, unwanted:

  • Following or coincidently showing up at the same place
  • Making threats
  • Persistently making contact after being told "no"
  • Sending or leaving gifts, letters, messages
  • Visits to home or place of employment

Stalking can happen to anyone regardless of gender, sex, age, race, ethnicity, strength, sexual orientation, size, religion, and ability. It can happen between ex-partners, friends, family, acquaintances, or strangers.


If you are being stalked, considering the following:

  • If you are in immediate danger, call 911
  • Communicate to your stalker that you do not appreciate the attention and you want it to stop.
    • Only do this once. Multiple interactions with the stalker will give them hope and reinforce their behavior.
  • Keep a stalking log that includes incidents, behaviors, gifts, or sightings involving the stalker**
    • Documenting as much as you can will help you if you decide to file a police report or a restraining order.
    • Ask your family, friends, co-workers, roommates, neighbors, etc to keep a log as well
  • Trust your instincts and take threats seriously
    • Stalking behavior can escalate over time.
    • You deserve to feel safe.
  • Tell your co-workers, neighbors, roommates, friends, family, and anyone you interact with to not share your information or whereabouts with anyone without your permission.
  • Be safe with your technology

If someone you know is a victim of stalking, here are ways you can help:

  • Validate their fears and concerns
    • Stalking is a serious crime and should not be taken lightly
  • Do not give out the victim's information to anyone without their permission
    • Even if they sound like a nice person or are convincing you that they need that information, do not give out any information that can help a stalker locate the victim
  • Document anything you see or hear that relates to the victim and stalker
    • Witnesses play an important role if the victim decides to obtain a restraining order or file a police report
  • Encourage the victim to seek resources
 

*The United States Department of Justice
**National Center for Victims of Crime Stalking